When you experience a situation you aren’t comfortable with, it’s easy to blame someone else. Blame feels good because it moves those uncomfortable feelings onto someone else.
When you’re angry and you’re frustrated, you have a gamut of unpleasant emotions and feelings running through your system. Turning to blame is an easy way to displace that discomfort. Blame takes those feelings and allows us to essentially place what we are experiencing onto someone or something else. We say the situation is their fault, their responsibility.
The problem is that when we project our feelings onto someone else, we disempower ourselves. When you have these uncomfortable feelings, and you say, “It’s not me, it’s them,” you are sabotaging your personal power to deal with the situation.
Saying that someone else is responsible for your feelings and attitudes is simply not true. It leaves you at the mercy of the person you are blaming.
In this video James Hayes, Director of Coaching and Public Trainings here at The Coaching Room, will take you through:
- A more holistic and mature way of looking at uncomfortable situations
- Understanding your responsibility
- Facilitating a more desirable outcome
- Reducing friction in your relationships by holding yourself accountable for your actions
- Looking at situations in terms of what you can do based on the role you play
- Fostering your personal power
Next Steps: Check out the download below to access a load more hints and tips that will accelerate your personal development.